I like the wine.

Playing SA today:

Dlr N:
Vul Both:

West has:       AQ85____♥ KJ1072____♦ 7____♣A75

East has:       964____♥64____♦ AK862____♣ KQ9

The bidding (totally ridiculous)

N      E      S    W
P      P      P    1H
P      2D   P     2S
P       3S    P    4S

No surprise, down one.  Make 3 N, 3S or 3N.

***
It can be a frustrating game.  Not often wise for husbands to play with their own wives.
Even tho it’s a balanced eleven with 4 controls, I wouldn’t open that East hand.  Put three tens in the hand and I might.
West opens 1 heart.  You tell him you have ten points (or more)
by bidding a forcing 1N.  (Since you’ve passed it must be exactly 10 or eleven.)
West names his second suit.
Neither of his bids helped your hand.  But you can’t pass.  West could have 20 points.
2N by you asks for the singleton.  But if you bid that you imply more than ten.
Because you passed, that will tell yr ptnr you have…voila…exactly eleven points.
(Not that you wanted to tell him anything.  He’s doing the telling.  But it’s funny how it works out…
\one partner knowing the other has exactly 11 hcp),
But I wouldn’t do that.  I’d bid 3N, not two.
Why not?
You have two seven card fits (the majors)
and two other fits of 5 and 7 cards, or 2 other 6 card fits. (Partner didn’t jump, so no void)
That’s means you have no fit.  Since partner is going to be the dummy,
you can spill all his cards on the table by bidding 2N (Stiff)…but why give the opps anything more?
3N might not make.  But looking at both hands that’s where you want to play.
Leading twice towards the hearts will usually develop  the 3 tricks you need in that suit.
You might rethink abandoning West as a partner.
Your differences on this hand could have easily been avoided
by talking about situations before they end in irritating lectures.
You’ve got to care about the game to be so damn picky.

Again,
I like the wine.